How do you form the life and work you want?

 


We can turn dilemmas, conflicts and struggles into opportunities for transformation. However, when we encounter the confusion and conflict that accompanies a critical threshold, sometimes, a little extra support and tailored guidance can make a big difference.

Where do you go to test your perceptions? And how do you challenge your assumptions? And what do you do when you discover some of those assumptions are wrong? Where do you go when the way forward is blocked or less-than-clear? With whom do you practice new approaches, or rehearse for threshold conversations?

Our coaching method is for those forming a life on purpose, like you. When you face an impasse, or when your situation is complex and unstable, then our coaching expertise will help you adapt to new realities. You'll gain a new perspective on your situation. You'll uncover previously hidden possibilities - options for action.You'll have space and help to incubate ideas and bold, new moves - in private.

Whether you are looking for support to navigate a difficult transition, to address a relationship challenge, or to clarify what's yours to do, we would welcome the opportunity to support you. Please contact us.

 

Our Approach - Problems can become openings

 
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We can turn dilemmas, conflict and struggles into opportunities for transformation. However, when we encounter the confusion and conflict that accompanies a critical threshold, it is more helpful to look for what’s trying to emerge in life instead of what’s wrong or broken. It helps to ask ourselves: What's trying to happen? What might be ending? What's beginning? What needs to mature?

This change of perspective allows us to work with what’s in progress. We learn that working with change takes less energy than fighting it. We also begin to realize that some “solutions” make things worse. 

Crises and sticking points often pose “adaptive dilemmas.” We get startled out of autopilot because we know there's no turning back, and yet we don't quite know how to proceed. Surviving and thriving on the other side of one of these thresholds requires profound change. 

These adaptive dilemmas often make us feel disoriented and lost. But that can be a good thing. Otherwise, we’d resort to our old coping behaviors that no longer work, and miss an important opening for new possibilities. 


Accurately perceiving what’s going on underneath the drama is key.

To learn more about predictable, developmental "crises" and what might be helpful to navigate thresholds associated with natural life cycles, download the paper to follow:

Gestures, Life Cycle Stages & Defining Moments
Explore specific tasks or "problems" that appear at different stages of development. When we appreciate the purpose of a system’s efforts to change, we can work with what's already in progress. Awareness of what is trying to happen prepares us for more reliable future action.